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Monday 5 November 2018

Finding Mary #1

Hi my lovelies.  Hope you've had a nice relaxed weekend.
For me (apart from the Guy Fawkes fireworks!) the weekend was a time of quiet reflection.

Reflection because some of you have commented that I've been looking a little trimmer of late, and I'm so flattered that you've noticed and have taken time to comment on it.  It sort of gets me to talk about the elephant in the room.  Quite literally!

This elephant has been losing weight.  I had a bit of an epiphany at the beginning of summer, a trigger moment, and the rest has fallen into place relatively easily.  I was large, now I'm er, less large!  I've still got a way to go.  And that's fine.

But let's explain this with some visuals.

Saturday night, tucking into yummy pea soup and freshly baked bread.

August on INSTA, HERE
I'm on the road to Finding Mary.

On the blog, back in April 2016.
Mary was lost in this body.

Some of you have expressed an interest in how I've lost weight.
To be honest, your interest in my changing body shape and your sharing of experiences has taken me by surprise.   I wasn't quite prepared for feedback.  But I hear ya!  And I'm pleased to share what I'm going through.  So I'm busy putting together notes on what's been going on these past few months.

   Qualified dietician I am not!  I can't give dieting advice.
But I've realised that losing weight encompasses a whole range of issues other than just food intake. 
It's complex and it's different for each of us.  It's not just a matter of saying here's what you should be eating, now go off and lose X pounds/kilos.  Oh and btw, those kilos won't return either.

There is no quick-fix and there is no one size fits all. All I can do is tell you what's worked for me.
And for me there has to be a trigger, something that connects with my subconscious in order for things to succeed, and succeed for the right reasons.  I need a light bulb moment!  
Maybe you do too?  Does this make any sense?

Caramel cashmere jumper, Madeleine.  Black leather skirt, M&S.

Without my trigger moment back in May, I don't think I would have kept on track for five months (FIVE months ? That's a first for me!).
But it's all fallen into place easily, my approach has been simple and easy to manage.   It's been light touch.
I've been kind to myself, letting body and mind work in harmony.
And my different approach to eating has become a new way of life.  It's sustainable and that's vital - I'm not feeling deprived.

I can share some of the mechanics with you in another post, the how's and the how muches, about how a change in attitude helped me start on the journey of Finding Mary.

Till then, be kind to yourself.
A la perchoine,

I'm not a trained dietician nor am I medically trained at all. 
An eating approach that works for me may not work for you.
I share my experiences and offer no guidance or recommendations to others.
Consult your doctor before starting any change in eating habits.


  1. Yes, I had noticed but didn't want to comment in case you were unwell. If it's what you want, congratulations.

    I love your head wrap photo, Mary, you've nailed it!

    1. Coming from The Queen of Head Wraps, I'm so flattered! It's so difficult and I think that's the only head wrap I've felt good enough to post a pic of.
      You're a sweet and sensitive soul, Vronni, I hadn't thought that people would think I was ill.
      Hope it's crisp and sunny where you are today, it is here, hugs, x.

  2. You look fabulous Mary, but you did before though. I can totally relate to you having lost about 1 1/2 stone in recent months - it really is a mindset. I've been following the Ketogenic diet, omitting carbs from my diet, and it has been quite easy. I do miss Prosecco and a curry and rice, but haven't felt deprived of anything else. I'm enjoying not feeling so bloomin full up, and getting into smaller clothes along with the compliments has been a big boost. Thanks for sharing and keep up the good work. Jacqui Mummabstylish

    1. Yes, we're on the same path. I eat and drink what I want but not too often and as you say, a lighter tum feels bloomin' good! I've been enjoying wearing clothes I hadn't worn for years, and I've felt like buying some new things too, which I tell hubs is the price we pay for a slimmer wifey ๐Ÿ˜‰. Let's support each other to keep going, Jacqui!!! Hugs, x.

  3. I think you're totally right Mary!! It can be about other things than the food. And our mind is so powerful!!
    Great job!!

    1. Thanks, Jodie. Yes, the reduced food intake is the easy bit, but a eureka moment seems to knock all the messy head stuff out of the park, clearing the way for a home run! I think you mentioned your MIL has lost weight too and was feeling so much better in herself. Congrats to her! Hugs, x.

  4. Yes my love you are looking marvelous Mary!!! I agree, there is no quick fix and it always requires a "light touch" if you want to keep the weight off. I can't wait to read your post on what you've been up to!
    Hugs my friend!

    1. Oh my friend, thank you! I’ve not been eating anything too exciting or doing anything energetic at 4.30am ! So light touch is winning every step of the way!! Hugs my lovely, x.

  5. You can really see the difference Mary and you look more youthful too.It's not just about looks though, you must feel so much better too. xx

    1. Thank you, lovely Laurie! Yes, TP tells me it's taken a few years off me but he hadn't reckoned on the wardrobe refit I'm having to "force" myself into! Some clothes I've bought in recent years may still sort of fit but they don't look right because more of my old personality is coming back as I lose weight. But I'm wearing a lot of things I haven't fitted into in years, so there's some economy there too! Aside from that, I am feeling fitter and more confident, and it's lovely to get my old self back!
      Happy weekend hugs to you, x.

  6. Hi Mary
    Feeling better, and more like yourself is great. Happy to hear you feel healthier. You look wonderful and I love the outfits - the leather skirt and the LBD, very pretty! I love soup and hearty bread in the cold months!

    1. Thanks so much, Jess. Yes, soups are just perfect for winter and a slab of butter on that bread wouldn't go amiss either ��. Hugs and have a nice week, x.

  7. You look so cute with that headband! Glad to hear you're feeling better!

    1. Thanks Ruth, the headband was one wild crazy moment when I thought "Yes, I can DO this!". I'm feeling for all the right reasons.
      Have a good day and be kind to yourself too!!