Finding Mary #3 - Food For Thought

I hope you enjoyed my first two posts, Finding Mary 1 and Finding Mary 2-Attitude (click the titles to go to the posts).

As I've already said, I think a dramatic shift in attitude pulls us through significant changes.  It gives us the wherewithal to know instinctively what needs to be done and the positivity to keep at it.   So what I'm eating these days to lose weight seems almost insignificant by comparison to my change in attitude.

That said, I'd like to share briefly today some of the new eating habits to which I've quickly adapted and which work for me.

Grab yourself a cuppa a thermos flask because I lied about the "briefly" part!

I'm not on a diet.

That's important, I'm not on a diet - I'm taking a new and easy, kind and sustainable approach to eating.

My eating plan has evolved, gently.

Evolved to suit me, my lifestyle, my way of doing things.

This works for me, it may not be suitable for you - you know what I'm going to say eh?  Seek medical advice when making any change to your eating or exercise routine!

Reduce fuel without feeling deprived.

I reduce the quantity and type of food I eat, conscious that good stuff is fuelling my body, like self-burnng  protein.  Simple.

Simple is sustainable, so I aim for an average calorie intake over time rather a draconian daily number.

I've settled on 200-ish cals per meal as being the magic number for me.  By keeping my meals to around 200-300 cals on most days, I have calories left over for Coffee Mate in my coffee, maybe an extra piece of fruit, a bedtime water Ovaltine, and still keep within a average of around 1000 cals daily.

1000 cals may be considered too low a daily intake, but it gives me wriggle room for more relaxed days when I have meals out with free choice from the menu, or maybe beans on toast if I want comfort food.  

My unscientific "ish" approach to calorie counting and the more relaxed days when I consume more than 1000 cals together work to average out to a number suitable for my height, weight, age, lifestyle etc.

Like this, I even have room in the budget for a 25cl bottle of Sancerre at the weekend if I fancy it!

That plan has evolved and works for me.  I don't feel I'm depriving myself but simply averaging out at the relatively low number of calories that my slow metabolism needs to lose weight.

Light touch, easy, flexible, sustainable.

Breaking this down through to the bite-sizes 200 cal number makes my life easier, it's fixed in my head.

I'm relaxed about each day's consumption of fuel because I know the numbers all pan out over time.

Importantly, my doctor is happy with this approach.

Keeping it Light Touch makes my approach sustainable.

Start the day with good intentions, taking one meal at a time.

With a few exceptions, I start day with a shake.

Fruity.  Fortified.  (More on this in another post).

This little blender beauty has been my life saver these past few months.  If you haven't got one, I seriously suggest you click on this link now and pop one in your basket!

 Starting well means if I'm a bit naughtier during the day then at least I've kept one meal within my 200 cal limit.  And each frugal meal is a credit ringing up in my weight-loss account!

I take things one meal at a time.

Be kind to yourself, don't put a ban on things you enjoy, just eat them less and in lesser amounts.

I eat what I want, and compensate before or after when I know I will be consuming or have consumed too many calories. Small tweaks.  

Sometimes I use meal replacement foods for convenience or when I want to be more exact with my calorie intake on these holier compensation days.

And it's small-plate magic that carries me through on days I want something less than holy.

I keep things flexible.  Relaxed.   Light Touch.

A little of what you fancy does you good.

Know your ball-park calories

I call them ball-park because I don't weigh or measure.  Nothing terrible happens if the 250 cals I think I'm eating is actually 350 !!!

I keep it Light Touch.

I take photos of plates that I've added up the  calories on - I then need to do this just once (you DO know I'm lazy, don't you?!!)

Create a store of no-thinking  go-to meals.

I have mostly been eating tea-plate sized meals, hovering just around the 200 cal mark.  Tuna, prawn, chicken, eggs - protein.  Vegatables.

Make life easy. Take photos of the everyday meals you enjoy!

Here are some examples of pretty instant go-to meals which check in at under 300 cals.

A slice of black bread scraped with butter, a slice of Havarti, a tomato, a little chopped red onion.   In touch with my Danish roots!

I love nursery food fish fingers!  So I have them when I really fancy them.  Here are four served rather unattratively but yummily and with a pile of veg and a dollop of salad cream (a third of the calories of mayo).

So, in order to eat well and low cal, carbs have to stop being the norm.

Do I miss my daily bread?  No.

Do I miss my daily potatoes?  No.

It's all about establishing new norms, new habits,  but I do have bread or potatoes when I really crave them - no deprivation, remember.

I haven't walked away from my eating plan after eating restaurant chips or the odd profiterole - I just relax, I haven't ruined everything!

Let her eat Birthday Cake!

Instead, I remember that my more frugal days compensate for when I want to eat in a more relaxed, off-duty way.  It's all about balance, averages.  Light Touch.

An eating plan of less carbs, more protein has evolved.

I didn't plan it that way, it just panned out like that.  But there will be days when I want something slightly stodgier.  For example, if I want to eat to stodgier salad, I keep the stodge small and savour the taste of each stodgy mouthful.

I eat what I want, but the portions don't need to be big.  Here, the naughtier end of the salad spectrum (pasta, cheese with a little mayo)  is kept to smaller sizes, served with prawns and egg and on a tea plate.

A little of what you fancy does no harm!

And that's some of the nitty-gritty you asked for, folks!

Is anything here of any help?

 There's no magic involved, no rocket science, just a relaxed way of eating differently.  And being easy on myself. 

Make It Easy On Yourself

A la perchoine,
Mary.

TO COME

Eating out. Fortified meals. Movement. Mindlessness.

Losing my obsession with the scales!

Finding Mary #1

Hi my lovelies.  Hope you've had a nice relaxed weekend.
For me (apart from the Guy Fawkes fireworks!) the weekend was a time of quiet reflection.



Reflection because some of you have commented that I've been looking a little trimmer of late, and I'm so flattered that you've noticed and have taken time to comment on it.  It sort of gets me to talk about the elephant in the room.  Quite literally!

This elephant has been losing weight.  I had a bit of an epiphany at the beginning of summer, a trigger moment, and the rest has fallen into place relatively easily.  I was large, now I'm er, less large!  I've still got a way to go.  And that's fine.

But let's explain this with some visuals.

Saturday night, tucking into yummy pea soup and freshly baked bread.

August on INSTA, HERE

I'm on the road to Finding Mary.

On the blog, back in April 2016.

Mary was lost in this body.

Some of you have expressed an interest in how I've lost weight.

To be honest, your interest in my changing body shape and your sharing of experiences has taken me by surprise.   I wasn't quite prepared for feedback.  But I hear ya!  And I'm pleased to share what I'm going through.  So I'm busy putting together notes on what's been going on these past few months.

   Qualified dietician I am not!  I can't give dieting advice.

But I've realised that losing weight encompasses a whole range of issues other than just food intake. 

It's complex and it's different for each of us.  It's not just a matter of saying here's what you should be eating, now go off and lose X pounds/kilos.  Oh and btw, those kilos won't return either.

There is no quick-fix and there is no one size fits all. All I can do is tell you what's worked for me.

And for me there has to be a trigger, something that connects with my subconscious in order for things to succeed, and succeed for the right reasons.  I need a light bulb moment!  

Maybe you do too?  Does this make any sense?

Caramel cashmere jumper, Madeleine.  Black leather skirt, M&S.

Without my trigger moment back in May, I don't think I would have kept on track for five months (FIVE months ? That's a first for me!).

But it's all fallen into place easily, my approach has been simple and easy to manage.   It's been light touch.

I've been kind to myself, letting body and mind work in harmony.

And my different approach to eating has become a new way of life.  It's sustainable and that's vital - I'm not feeling deprived.

I can share some of the mechanics with you in another post, the how's and the how muches, about how a change in attitude helped me start on the journey of Finding Mary.

Till then, be kind to yourself.

A la perchoine,

Mary.

I'm not a trained dietician nor am I medically trained at all. 

An eating approach that works for me may not work for you.

I share my experiences and offer no guidance or recommendations to others.

Consult your doctor before starting any change in eating habits.